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TOP SIX WAYS TO KEEP THAT RELATIONSHIP GLOWING.

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HOW NOT TO TREAD ON YOUR PARTNER’S EMOTIONAL TOES

Life and living are all about relationships. You, I, he and she all live and thrive on good relationships. Though the word Relationship covers the entire gamut of human bonds- this post-on the eve of Valentine’s Day is about romantic relationships.

I have read often that one has to work on relationships. I would prefer to say that one has to act with awareness and be always sensitive to the other’s feelings. Put simply, just keep your emotional intelligence always on alert so as not to tread on your partner’s emotional toes.

1.    TELL ‘I LOVE YOU’ AGAIN AND AGAIN.

And then again and again…In the bedroom, in the bath, in the kitchen, out in the streets…wherever.
Sounds tame and old fashioned? Well, there is nothing tame about love. Never be tired of announcing your love to your precious partner. Be generous in your hugs and kisses.

2.    SPLURGE A BIT.

If your partner is in the mood for a little reckless spending, so be it. Loosen your purse strings a bit, and do not, for God’s sake, start that lecture on world economy. Of what use money, if it cannot bring sunshine into your relationships. You can, with your high E.Q, find an appropriate time to discuss and get your finance back on stable ground.

3.    THOU MAY NOT THRUST.

Do not thrust yourself, literally or otherwise on your partner by being too demanding and possessive. Give him or her some free space so that your partner doesn’t gag on the relationship.

4.    DO TRUST.

If there be only one single word for a lasting relationship of any kind, it is TRUST in all matters, not merely physical. Never challenge your partner based on hearsay, even though the matter in question might have come from a reliable source. Always give the benefit of doubt in all matters to him/her and then gently sort it out between yourselves- if you must-with great tact and dignity.

5. PRAISE IN PUBLIC, CRITICIZE (IF YOU MUST) IN PRIVATE.

I cannot overemphasize the importance of this Golden Rule which is self explanatory. On many an occasion, I have seen the shame and embarrassment on some friend’s face, when reprimanded by the spouse in public. Here the issue, however important it may seem at that time, should take a back seat and be swept under the carpet for the time being, to be worked out in private.

6.     BE THERE.

No doubt, there will be demands on your time from your career, and many other responsibilities that you may have to shoulder. But you must reassure your partner that you will always accord due priority in case of any requirements or exigencies.

These are of course not exhaustive, but valuable tips for an evergreen relationship.

HAVE A FANTASTIC VALENTINE’S DAY!




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